Scene: At a friend’s house… hanging out… talking…
A: tkhayelaw… tathkeroon ex Sara? Elii kanaw e7ebon ba3ath wayed bss ahalhum ma ra7 yerthon so they broke up?
Everyone: ee?
A: tadroon enna tawa he had a daughter and he called her sara..
Some girls: awwwwhh!! 7arammmm!! Kan 9ejj e7ebha!! HATHA el 7ub!!
Okay…
There’s this trend… This is the fourth guy I’ve heard eli sama his daughter 3ala the girl he used to love… That’s not quite the problem. The real problem is that the girl who used to date this guy becomes really flattered.. She’s so happy that this guy is still thinking about her.. Even though she doesn’t love him anymore. Even though she has moved on… It makes her happy and it gives her a sense of triumph…
Personally, I would be very offended if a guy I used to love calls his daughter after me…
Reasons:
1) It would make me a freak to want to consume a part of his heart when he belongs (emotionally AND legally) to another girl.
2) My love for him would be clearly based on a lie.. Because I would NEVER intentionally love a guy who would do such a disrespectful thing.
3) It would exactly feel like a married stranger is flirting with me.. Either he’s a bad guy.. Or I’m seducing a married man…both not amusing
4) Love CAN last an eternity after you break up, however your actions based on that love END the day u END the relationship… Anything beyond that means you’re crossing the line.
5) I would put myself in his wife’s shoes… Man that would suck… since I’m putting myself in her place, and that situation would offend her, it would offend me too.
Banat… When you love a guy… Wouldn't you love him more than anything? Sometimes more than your friends… Think of it this way… When your bestest bestest bestest friend eli t7eboonha more than anyone tenkhe6eb…. Don’t you feel happy for her? Okay okay 9ejj enna its gonna be different.. This girl eli she’s 24/7 mjaabletech ra7 tro7... Bss won’t you be happy for her.. You would keep your sad feelings for yourself and let her go… Why? Because it would make HER happy.. Oo entaw t7eboonha…
It’s the same thing.. This guy you love… He’s married… BE happy for him. LET him go… ITS NOT A GOOD THING enna he still remembers you… and its WORSE enna you like the fact enna he’s not moving on…
Another issue mo 3ajbatni bel banat… of course not all of them… But MANY… They have this obsession about guys who don’t want them… Mathalan…
Girl: wayhh shfe hatha 7ann.. I don’t want him hff!! Shyabi feni laishh kella e7en??
(a month passes… The girl doesn’t hear from this guy)
Girl thinks: hmmm.. Sh3enda? Shda3wa he didn’t call? Shda3wa ma yes2al..? Shfeee??
(Two other weeks pass… Girl tshof guy eb msn faj2a dash online..)
Girl: hiii….
Boy: ahlan
Girl: Shlonek?
Boy: ebkhair el7mdela…
Girl (fifteen minutes later): Busy?
Boy: ee shway.. Brb..
Girl thinks: What the hell?? Shfeeee hatha?? WHO the hell does he think he is? Ana eli maa abeee a9lan…
(two weeks pass.. Msn again)
Girl: Hiiiii
Boy: ahlaaain
Girl: shda3wa mn zeman 3aaanek??
Boy: walla mawjood..
Girl: eee ma tes2al wala shay.. Wainekk??
Boy: heheh t3arfeen dawamm oo chethi..
Girl: ee awal kent etdawem ba3ad bs kent kela tes2al..
Boy: ee el sheqel b3d ta3ab oo chethi..
Girl: Oh okay ta3aal abiii agolekk salfa..
(Boy mayredd 3alaihaaa.. Tan6er 7 minutes)
Girl: Aloooo
Boy: hala?
Girl: Wback
Boy: lol ma re7t mukan..
Girl thinks: AKEED hatha laaageeeela wa7da!!! MENU hathii??
Then tabdi el legaafa… not because she’s interested in him… bss because gaaam ma ya36eeha wayh… So faj2a 9ar “HOT”!! please banaat…
Tadron fe mathal egol : lebnaya methel el kura.. 7e6ha fog rasik et6e7... Bss throw her at the wall etredlik…
Is that what you really want guys to think about us? What about our strength? What about our education, our hobbies, our personalities, oo wayed things… Why do girls hide those amazing things with surfacy shallowy crap… ya3ne come on… Grow up… (ga3da agol 7g nafsi to grow up as well… ga3da awajeh moshkela bel da3ala)…
Please goloooli what you think of this issue… abi ur opinions please :D:D:D
This post ehda2 to alooshy;) Hope I expressed your feelings eb hal mawtho3 lol!
kafo walh, ..
ReplyDelete3ala rasy.
you are right on target with this!!
ReplyDeletei agree with everything u said Cap!!
some girls need to learn how to value themselves walla!!
its like All girls care about is pretty guys these days!! lel asaf!!
i love love ur posts wala... u always have a deep meaning smila 3alaich!!
xoxo
nameless: thaank you wayed;)
ReplyDeleteEven Sweeter: ee hal salfa wayed 7aratni hal ayamm le2anha ga3da tzeed.. ooo Thank you so much.. i'm so glad u like my posts it means a lot;**
abou the first issue, 9ara7a i never really thought about it...
ReplyDeletebs come to think about it, i think id be flattered...mo 7ag shay bs ena it will show me that at one point this guy was serious about me, fahmatny?
the issues you raise are very valid, bs i'm assuming that in your scenario we're talking abt a couple who couldnt be together bcz of outside forces oo b3dain was forced to end up with someone else...so essentially his heart is with someone and his brain is with someone else?
do i make sense?
oo b3dain mo ella elwathe3 chithee...ya3ny ana etha a3ez someone, i think its okay ena i name my child after him or her...ya3ny mo 3ala salfat ex bas, fahmatny? it could be even a cowroker eli 5osh wa7ed oo mako feelings at all, bs still =)
i hope im making sense, im not sure if i actually am though =(
oh and abt the second issue, I AGREEEEEE!!
its a thing about us girls though =\
and men too ya3ny mo bs e7na...a person always wants what he cant have =\
ufff!
ReplyDeletechenny ketabt essay!
lol sorry =\
kelena 3ndna same problem, we all should grow up! madry laish we like to show guys how desperate we are even if we are not interested in them anymore, ya36ech el3afia 3la el post, it'll be very helpful for my cousin:D
ReplyDeleteand about naming his kid after his gf, well its cute and it wouldnt bother me:S but if i were the wife i wouldnt be happy about it;p
ReplyDeleteĐǻñĎõøðñ: LooooL 7addech ma ketabtayy essay;*** ummm ana awal i used to think like that.. oo enna 9ejj its okay.. I believe enna hal person 9ejj he doesn't think about u eb hal way bss yom mn el ayam kan e7ebech oo now e3ezech... bss etha entay tzawajtay... mat7esen u have the right to know who ur kid msameenha 3alaiha? etha its just ma3aza.. then he should tell the wife.. el co worker thing oo hatha ee.. ana uboy emsameeni 3ala his student lol mafeha shay... bss i mean 7aram 7g his wife. It makes her kinda stupid:S
ReplyDeleteMoi: LoL tara kelena 3ndena el mamnoo3 marghoob.. bss guys tend to think about karamat'hum wayed fa most of the time they don't make it seem obvious how much they want a girl.. bss a girl (me included) makes a fool out of her self eb shakel fatheeee3.. oo 3n the other mawthoo3.. ana moshkelti wayed a7e6 nafsi eb mokan el wife.. le2ana what if i get married oo esami MY daughter 3ala his ex... it would break my heart...
awal part: i totally agree with u. It's just..wrong! y3ny sij even if the wife ddnt know who the hell sara is, it's wrong! and sick in a way! honestly wtf?! wain ga3den esame binta 3ala his ex? e5..
ReplyDelete3ala the second part: NO COMMENT!
silver walla ana wayed mestaghreba mn el wath3.. i find it sick too... because 7araaammm the wife:s 7attan if a girl etsami 3ala her ex.. ya3ne both cases... oo the second part.. ehehe i'm hoping no comment as in u agree with me as well? :p
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